Many of you know my husband has been living with Alzheimer’s for over ten years. It’s a disease that doesn’t just take someone once; it takes them countless times. Some days, they remember you, and others, you’re just another face in the room. Often, the person they lash out at most is the one who loves and cares for them the deepest. But then there are days that make every struggle worth it.
Alzheimer’s runs in my husband’s family, suggesting a possible genetic link. Today, our usual Sunday ritual began with me picking him up from the memory care facility, where he’s been for nearly a year now, after it became too difficult for me to manage his care alone. We went to church, greeting everyone as if it were the first time, a familiar yet poignant part of our routine. Afterward, we met our daughter Erica, her husband Tim, our grandson Thomas, and my husband’s sister Lisa and her husband Joel for a wonderfully filling lunch.
A Family Reunion and a Spontaneous Dance
Feeling adventurous after lunch, we decided to visit my husband’s other sister, Lynette, who is two years older and also lives with dementia in a different memory care facility. Lisa and Joel joined us. Lynette, who hasn’t been very verbal lately, was on one of her frequent walks when we arrived. As we called out, “Look who’s here!” she stopped, looked at us, and loudly exclaimed, “Brother!!!!” The hug they shared was incredibly sweet.
She led us to her room, and we talked, went outside, and came back in. I was trying to find something to occupy them both when an idea sparked: “Why don’t you two dance?!”
You might think I’m crazy – and honestly, some days I am, but both of them adore Beach Music and the Shag. So, we helped them up and cranked up the tunes. What happened next was truly inspiring.
The Healing Power of Music and Connection
Watching them move, even just for a few moments, in sync with the music they loved, was a powerful reminder. It showed me, once again, the incredible, enduring love of family and the unexpected gifts it can bring back to you. Music truly is a great healer, and I believe it offers a unique solace not just to those living with dementia, but to their caregivers.
WHILE I BREATHE 